Working with students after things go wrong is part of the
important work we do here at LCES. Like anywhere else in a world affected by
sin, our students have moments where harsh words, frustration, or impulsive moments
or words create friction and moments of tension. Things go off the rails.
Often I need to help students name and understand choices in
the past, what they represented, and how to go about making things right. This
can be challenging depending on the circumstances and the students’ willingness
to take responsibility for their previous words or actions. Sometimes it is hard to even get a
clenched-teeth apology from two or more that don’t see eye-to-eye.
Other times, as was the case this morning, its more about
providing the space and letting it happen.
Two students had a scuffle before school outside and both walked away
affected by the event. Thirty minutes later when I brought the second student
into my office, the first immediately stood up, named what they had done and
offered an apology and reached out to hug the other (older) student all in one
fluid gesture. No prompting. A warm, gracious acceptance was immediately
offered, and they shook hands and walked out together.
These two didn’t need my involvement other than arranging
the meeting. This was moment in the making for a long time I’m sure. Many
influences had patterned their lives with a working model of reconciliation and
graciousness. What conversations had they witnessed where tensions were sorted,
and justice was restored? Where did they see grace extended after pain
inflicted? Who did they see the humility of taking responsibility?
Practising accountability and reconciliation among our
students is just one of the reasons that I’m thankful for Christian education
at LCES.
SJ
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